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Marriage Counseling

Ten years in, and the dinner table feels like a deposition.

You both still show up. That part matters more than you know.

But somewhere between the life you built together and whatever happened last year (or three years ago, or longer), the easy got hard.

Conversations that used to flow now get measured before they leave your mouth.

One of you is carrying hurt like a stone in your chest. The other is dragging guilt that won’t quit.

And you’re both sitting on the same side of wanting to fix it, which is the cruelest irony of all.

That’s the room I work in.

Find your way back to each other.

I’m a couples therapist, and I specialize in marriage counseling for partners who’ve hit a wall and aren’t ready to call it.

My approach is rooted in the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), with mindfulness woven throughout.

I’m not here to referee or hand down verdicts. I’m here to help you two figure out what went wrong structurally, not just emotionally, so you can build something that actually holds.

John Gottman’s Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work aren’t a checklist. They’re a framework for understanding how couples lose each other, and how they find their way back.

  1. Build Love Maps. Know your partner’s world again, not just the surface stuff.
  2. Nurture Fondness and Admiration. Remember why you chose this person. It’s in there.
  3. Turn Toward Instead of Away. Catch the small bids for connection before they disappear.
  4. Let Your Partner Influence You. Let your partner actually matter in how you make decisions.
  5. Solve Solvable Problems. Some conflicts just need better tools. We build those.
  6. Overcome Gridlock. Get underneath the arguments to the values and histories driving them.
  7. Create Shared Meaning. Rebuild a relationship that has a story you both want to be in.

This is the map. But the territory is yours.

We go at your pace, and I’ll tell you honestly what I’m seeing along the way.

Your marriage doesn’t have to stay like this.

You’ve hit a rough patch. You’re both a little guarded, maybe unsure how to reach each other again.

But the love is still there – and with the right support, trust and ease can come back too.

If this sounds like you, I’m here. Call me at (310) 493-3478.